Won't you be my Tinderella?

No, that's NOT me on the left...

I revealed in my last post that I was on Tinder. Shamefully I was on for a while as well.  I spent hours swiping right or left with that one finger. It was an ongoing cycle, an addiction. An addiction that I put too much effort into and I've come out the other side with nothing but wanting to share my thoughts on why it's not worth your time. So ...

1. It's not widely used as a dating app.
Turns out it's 18+, but they still let 13 year olds sign up through Facebook...  Good going Tinder.

It might have been intended to be a dating app but it's turned out quite differently. With a lot of adults, it probably goes like this: You match with someone you like the look of. You both know what you want. Exchange numbers and send a few pictures (It's not as innocent as some may think) and you are good to go. You meet and you have sex. Simple. "Sounds like a great idea" I hear most of you guys say but the feeling's not always mutual. Sorry!

2. Chances of success? Minimal.
You could get 1064 matches and yet you could easily still end up in the same position as you were before.

 

FACT: There are many more guys on Tinder than girls so as a guy, your chances of standing out are already slim. Good luck trying to find an original first message to stop her from blanking/unmatching you as well. Yeah that's right, they match you cause they seemingly like you, then they don't talk to you! See my problem with understanding girls? It's a struggle.

I don't know how he survived for that long...

For some of you girls out there, I guess it would be funny to be hit left, right and centre with all kinds of pick up lines from the dozens maybe hundreds of matches you'll get. But exactly how much of that can you take? Do they even work? "Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?" etc. will surely get boring. I mean, even I cringe when I see it on Twitter for the umpteenth time. Don't forget about the guys around who probably want a "cheeky" picture of you "just for them" even if you put in your bio: "I don't do nudes". 

Even if you do get a match where you manage to hit it off, how long will that last? Chances are you're miles apart and at the age of 16 ( or younger), good luck trying to meet them!

Say you have a person who you love texting/messaging where the banter is non-stop and the conversation always flows . You go and meet them. What can and what normally does happen? Awkward silences, nervous laughter and the initial attraction and chemistry goes. Just. Like. That.

We have so much more time to respond to texts that we nearly always know what to say. You don't have that in real life. We have no problem talking to our friends on and off the screen but when it comes to that person you're meeting for the first time... The composure, the quick thinking, it all goes out of the window. Strange? Well that's love (or nerves) for you I guess.

3. You don't know who you're talking to...

 

Of course Tinder isn't the only app where you can meet people online. Twitter, Instagram, BBM, Snapchat etc. have all taken the once huge, mysterious world we live in and have placed it right under our fingertips.

 

With the exception of Snapchat, this situation makes for perfect bait to be catfished. No, I'm not talking about the actual fish...
 

To catfish a person is to "lure someone into a relationship by adopting a fictional online persona".

If you haven't already seen it, I definitely recommend watching Catfish: The TV Show. Every episode the presenters help a person who wants to meet the person they've been talking to for months, sometimes years, but are suspicious of the truth. They investigate and arrange the meet. 8 times out of 10 though, it's not the same person.

They seem to do it for only two reasons: to troll and because they're too insecure about their looks.

I have been trolled, not on a large scale, but then again who hasn't? And yet we still take the risks of not entirely knowing who we're talking to whenever we try to slide into the DMs of that "buff ting".

The Catfish presenters. Who needs Sherlock when you've got these two?! 

The Internet is normally not the place for a new relationship. Friendships maybe but both tend not to last. You could try to make it work but who has the time for that? Your lives end up being too distant and a screen can't make up for every component of a face to face relationship. You have to meet them sooner rather than later. But hey, prove me wrong.